…that I also wish I could travel back in time to say to my five year old self.*

1. You’re beautiful and perfect. And you’ll never need to look or be a certain way to be beautiful and perfect.

2. We all have this really cool super-power of thought which creates our own version of our life and the world. Even when it looks like people or things are making you upset or cross, it’s your own thoughts making the feelings – and there’s nothing wrong with that, it’s just how we work.

3. If you’re open to learning from everything that happens to you then you can never lose, no matter what happens.

4. Having fun is ridiculously important.

5. No-one is a bad person – we can just have thoughts that make us behave that way sometimes but we all have a diamond of love, goodness and happiness inside us.

6. When your mood is low – say, when you’re tired, ill or hungry – your thoughts can seem really, really real (and that’s OK too, it’s just how we work).

7. Happiness is the point of life.

8. You’re plugged into an awesome, non-stop flow of ideas, dreams, creativity, calm, love and happiness.

9. Being kind to ourselves, other people, animals and the planet is probably the only rule worth following.

10. I love you to infinity and beyond!

Oh and 11. Yes, cake is the perfect thing for breakfast! 😉

* Although I guess that might go on to change the course of events, perhaps resulting in tidal waves and possibly the eventual no show of my children or Born Happy, so on second thoughts… Perhaps not. :)

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Written by | Lian Brook-Tyler

Lian is a co-founder and the editor of Born Happy and a teacher at the revolutionary happiness course Happy School and the host of the weekly top 10 iTunes rated happiness podcast The Born Happy Show. Her mission is to share the principles behind our inborn happiness with the world – believing that this is our best chance of achieving a happier world! Lian lives with her husband, their two children, and a double helping of ginger goodness: their cat Beatle and their dog Lazslo. Her passions are baking, writing, hosting parties, making and drinking cocktails, and watching wonderful people wake up to a life without limits.


  1. mom2

    November 4, 2014 at 10:36 am

    Great list :)

    I’ve been mostly talking to my son (7 y) about moods. That every day we go up and down for maybe fifty times a day, and you always come back up without having to do anything. My son is scientific type, so he’s also impressed about the fact that we get 60 000 to 100 000 thoughts per day, and in those thoughts there are both good and bad ideas and you don’t have to follow all of them. My son tends sometimes to worry in the evenings, and I tell him that it’s ok to throw some of the worry thoughts in the “trashcan” of your head.

    I like to think that the child needs a lot less “theory” than us adults.

  2. Lian Brook-Tyler

    November 4, 2014 at 1:23 pm

    Thank you Mom2! What fab conversations you’re having with your son. :)

    Yes, I agree – children definitely seem to need less theory – I guess because this stuff is pretty simple if you haven’t built up a tonne of thought (beliefs, limitations, fears, excuses) about life working a different way!

    My two teach me far more than I could ever teach them.

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