Look for the glitch

Piers Thurston 3 years ago Happiness
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The Matrix
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Piers Thurston

Piers Thurston

I have been a personal and professional development coach since 2001, and coached 100s clients for 1000s of hours; ranging from national newspaper editors, to Sheiks in Riyadh, to international sports people. I first discovered the principles in 2009, but it wasn’t until participating in SuperCoach 2011 that I realise this was going to be a huge turning point in my life and work. Previously I had based my change work around NLP (I was a NLP trainer) Clean Language, Appreciative Inquiry, and range of others approaches and techniques. Now I am having a wonderful time exploring the Principles with my clients, both in the corporate and private client worlds. More on Piers' services at his website.

Whether it be those magic eye pictures, the illusions of a great magic show, or the beauty of a rainbow in a waterfall …..some things are just so simple that you can’t see them, or believe them, until you catch a glimpse of them from another angle.

Life is like that. And I mean this at the most fundamental level. What creates our lives, our experience in any moment, is so simple and intuitive. Yet most of us have innocently and accidentally being conditioned away from seeing it. We realised it without intellectually knowing it when we were babies and young toddlers, but gradually and invisibly we have lost sight of it… our realisation has become buried under years of looking the other way. It is still there, often shining through when we get out of our own way. But even when it does appear, we usually misunderstand it and assume it was caused by something else.

What am I referring to? The simple truth of what is going for all of us, in any moment, all the time. And I will say it two sentences, which depending on your personal thinking will either be somewhere between the most profound and liberating thing you have ever read, or the most banal and pointless. Anyway here goes…

  1. We create our experiences, and therefore how we feel in any moment, via thought NOT via the outside world of events and circumstances.
  2. There is an innate and universal (i.e. we all have it) intelligence which is available to point us back to mental well-being and happiness in any moment.

Let me say it another way – the outside world of people, things, events, circumstances does not create how we feel, we do that individually via thought. That amazing holiday that eased your stress? It wasn’t the holiday. That annoying friend that put you in a bad mood – it wasn’t your friend that did that. Every single feeling you have is created 100% from your own thoughts – not from these correlating outside factors. And secondly, we all have access to unlimited amounts of happiness and resilience and connection, that is our birth right as human being.

Hold up! If that is true, how come we all aren’t much happier then? If you were a Martian observing our civilization you wouldn’t see much evidence of this unlimited amount of happiness – why? Because most of us (as adult) don’t actually realise the principles above and therefore don’t run our lives or minds in alignment with them. It is like driving a boat backwards, it sort of works, look likes you are going somewhere but it isn’t very smooth, stable or efficient. And when you realise it’s supposed to go the other way round, it works so much better!

Most of us are living and operating from 3 main misunderstandings:

1)     We are programmed that we need the outside world of events and circumstance to be a certain way so that we can be happy and secure. E.g. ‘’I’ll be truly happy when I have enough money/career success/ better relationships” etc

2)     To have the right feelings we think we need to manage and control our own thoughts.

3)     We think we are our egos

But pause for a moment and have a look, behind the veil of normality. If you do, you might catch a glimpse that we are making it all up via the creative power of thought in any moment. Yes all of it, even the big stuff, like ‘who we think we are’, ‘what we think is important’, but none of it is true. It might feel real, but the nature of thought and consciousness just make it appear and feel real. There is a difference between what is real and what is true. Have you ever had that experience where you almost out of the blue see something differently? Usually it pops up when you are doing something completely unrelated like having a shower or doing the washing up, and the thought feels fresh and new – the reality changes.

Our experience is all made of thought. So if it is all made of thought, we need understand the nature of thought – fluid, and formless. Fluid? It comes and goes (that is why we write stuff down!) formless? – it doesn’t do anything to you, unless you load it with awareness and meaning when it stops being fluid, and it becomes your ‘reality’ – your belief system. But, just as ice can melt to water, our thought-created reality can melt back to nothing, and then form a different reality, and do that infinite number of times, all in an instance. And once we let thought become more fluid we get more of what is behind it, we experience the innate intelligence and wellbeing that universally and uniformly exists in any moment, which has all the wisdom, connectedness and peace that we need. The stuff that you feel and see in pure soul of new born baby. Those moments you snatch when all the chaos around seems to pause, as you get absorbed into a great book, piece of music or go on a lovely walk. That warm fuzzy feeling we get sometimes.

So what does that mean? Well it means many things that we will point to more to across Born Happy, but here is something to start gently reflecting on.

As we are always living in the feeling of our moment-to-moment thinking, but it often it appears like our feelings are caused by something else – our bank balance, our partner or poor results at work – check it out for yourself. A clue is to look for the glitch (you know like Keanu Reeves saw in the movie the Matrix) – the variation, the lack of consistency in the external world creating our feelings. As some times the same external event can look and feel very different. For example, your children/wife/boss annoys you, and you get worked up, then in the morning the same thing doesn’t look so bad… you see it differently. But does that always happen like clockwork? No, some things seem to take a different amount of time to feel better. So there are 2 possible explanations: either 1. somewhere there exists a big set-in-stone schedule of how long different events take to feel better; or 2. simply, when we stop thinking something, it feels better. And fresh thinking will come along by itself when you stop adding thinking and meaning in. And what is even better, is that fresh thinking actually points us back to well-being. Just as our physical bodies heal by themselves (you don’t have to get actively involved to make that bruise go away) our mental and emotional health self-restores as well.

In a nutshell:

  • We are part of and have access to an energy and intelligence behind life. It doesn’t tell us how to live our lives, just ensures we all have the potential for a wonderful one, unless we get in the way.
  • We all are always creating our experience of life via the vehicle of thought – this creates the external world as we know it in any moment. So nothing in our experience is permanent or true despite how real it might appear.

Now what does all that mean? Read on…

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Written by | Piers Thurston

I have been a personal and professional development coach since 2001, and coached 100s clients for 1000s of hours; ranging from national newspaper editors, to Sheiks in Riyadh, to international sports people. I first discovered the principles in 2009, but it wasn’t until participating in SuperCoach 2011 that I realise this was going to be a huge turning point in my life and work. Previously I had based my change work around NLP (I was a NLP trainer) Clean Language, Appreciative Inquiry, and range of others approaches and techniques. Now I am having a wonderful time exploring the Principles with my clients, both in the corporate and private client worlds. More on Piers' services at his website.

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