Self-love (or how to get over yourself!)…with Phil Goddard

This week I’m speaking to Phil Goddard. Phil says that whilst he could be described as a coach, but he said he could be more simply described as a Lover. :)  And it is this pure loving presence that he brings to his clients, groups, family and friends. He started coaching professionally in 2005 and transitioned from an incredibly successful career a leader in UK local and central government departments, and I.T corporations. Swapping hard work for heart work, he brings the simplicity, power and clarity of love into many other lives and organisations, getting to the ‘heart of the matter’ through one-on-one coaching and coaching intensive retreats, whilst travelling around Europe and the USA.

For the past decade, Phil’s been evolving his work and the way he works with his clients and he’s realising more recently that it’s super simple and really just comes down to love.

And today, we’re talking about self-love – or how to get over yourself. :)

What you’ll learn in this show:

  • Self-love isn’t about treating yourself. As Phil says ‘…by all means have the dark Belgium chocolates, buy yourself red roses, treat yourself to a massage, get down to the gym and feast on spinach soup for lunch. Allow yourself some quiet time, say f**k it and book that holiday, have a sit down with a cup of tea, get a manicure and buy the not-from-concentrate juice.’ but that isn’t what self-love is. Self-love is purely about accepting yourself, as you are.
  • If you’re negotiating with yourself “If I put myself through this Hell then I can reward myself afterwards.” then that’s not love. Reward to counterbalance judgement is not an act of love. Love doesn’t involve judgement.
  • Notice the difference between how acceptance feels and how resistance feel. Can you feel that acceptance doesn’t create tension?

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Love, Lian xo

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Written by | Lian Brook-Tyler

Lian is a co-founder and the editor of Born Happy and a teacher at the revolutionary happiness course Happy School and the host of the weekly top 10 iTunes rated happiness podcast The Born Happy Show. Her mission is to share the principles behind our inborn happiness with the world – believing that this is our best chance of achieving a happier world! Lian lives with her husband, their two children, and a double helping of ginger goodness: their cat Beatle and their dog Lazslo. Her passions are baking, writing, hosting parties, making and drinking cocktails, and watching wonderful people wake up to a life without limits.

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